December 2023 I wrote a post Happiness is temporary; all scenarios lead to loss which was inspired after an episode of Rick and Morty. Little did I know that 2026 this will still be the most read post on my blog and it’s still getting traffic. I had no idea that day when I wrote it what the next chapter of my life will be, I had no idea I would meet someone who I will fall in love with, get married and start a huge new chapter in my life. But I was always open to whatever life will throw at me next and I absolutely stand by my words that I wrote in that post.
How boring would life be if as emotional being you would just go for the safe option to prevent yourself from this trap? Does it suck to fall into the hole of darkness and suffering? Sure … but the dullness and boredom of a life without deep feelings seems pointless and a waste of time.
The “safe” option would have probably been to not fall in love, not start all over again, do nothing that would have the possibility to end in pain at some point. But I already mentioned that this would be a boring life.
You’re wasting your time with me
This brings me to another great song that keeps going through my mind in the past months. It’s once again a german song from Kraftclub & Deichkind called “Zeit aus dem Fenster”
It’s weird enough to catch the attention of brain and start paying attention to the lyrics:
“Du könntest sein mit wem du willst, an jedem Ort auf dieser Welt, doch du vergeudest deine Zeit mir - wirf deine Zeit aus dem Fenster mit mir.“
This translates to:
„You could be with whomever you want, at any place of this world, but you waste your time with me - throw your time out of the window with me“
I will just leave this uncommented here, because from an outside perspective this will leave too much to interpret and in the end, the lyrics just stroke a cord with me and not everything has to translate into real life meaning.
But the best part of the song, which also fits in to the 2023 post comes at the end, when the song is already finished. It‘s something that I keep listening to over and over and over again.
Nächsten Tag stehst du auf, hast Riesenpläne, aber alles für’n Arsch Dann gehst du um die Ecke und dann liegt da auf einma’ alles voll mit Gold und Diamanten und mit dem Partner fürs Leben Und dann geht er fremd und dann ist es doch ’n anderer Partner Ist-, es ist nie so, wie es ist Nichts ist so stetig wie der Wandel Deswegen: Verschwendet so viel Zeit, wie ihr könnt
Next day you wake up, got massive plans, but it’s all for shit Then you turn the corner and suddenly there’s gold and diamonds everywhere and the partner of your life And then he cheats on you and turns out it’s a different partner after all It’s- it’s never the way it is Nothing’s as constant as change So: Waste as much time as you can
Have to admit I like the german version better, but also probably because of the context of the song that carries it‘s own message packed in music.
But yes, Nothing’s as constant as change and we keep forgetting that. Every ending in the start of something new and this all repeats until the final end. So: Waste as much time as you can.
And that is exactly what I will do, I will try to waste as much time as possible with my wonderful wife, and my wonderful kids.
To end this post, I will leave you with a wonderful quote from the little prince, which also was the quote we got during our marriage. I find it wonderful, it‘s something that aligns with how I think and was so surprised to hear this:
Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.
And now, carry on, because nothing is as constant as change.
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